“Get off the battlefield of conflict,
and on to the playing field of collaboration.”
Last month, in February, we focused on our individual worth, personal empowerment, and on self-esteem. Individual efforts do quite a bit to change the world around us, but we can do so much more if we resolve conflicts and work together more often.
A dove has always been a symbol for peace so the color of peaceful dove gray is the celebration symbol for March’s habit to Resolve Conflicts. Even if you began this month like a lion, decide to go out like a lamb. If losing your temper too quickly adds to the stress of conflicts with others, work on calming yourself down and taking time outs when you feel your emotional temperature rising.
The late advice columnist, Ann Landers, once suggested that we observe a National Reconciliation Day. As part of making this book work for you, you now have one whole month to do that—this month of March.
Resolving conflicts with someone that you disagree with takes a lot of courage, but this is the time to begin. Start with a smile and begin mending fences. Pick up the phone or write a letter. Take a few extra minutes with someone with whom you experience problems. Try to learn more about their point of view. Life is too short to hold grudges. Forgiving others is a great feeling. Reach out today, perhaps right in your own home. Lighten up, give a little and compromise. You will be happier and healthier for the effort.
Elaine Parke, guest speaking at a Rwandan Rotary Club in 2006, where, in memory of the genocide, they observed the 12 habits month to “Resolve Conflicts.”
March’s Videos
Cosmic Comic Swami Beyondananda gives his unique take on the 12 Habits of Unity’s March Habit - Resolve Conflicts.
“I am often asked, ‘Swami, will there ever be peace on Earth?’ Well, I have great news. There will indeed be peace on Earth. I sure hope that we humans are around to enjoy it!” — Swami Beyondananda
March comes in like a lion, and goes out like a lamb, so what better month to get off the battlefield? “Resolve conflicts” doesn’t mean pretend they don’t exist. It means coming together at the heart to look at the source of the conflict together. That’s getting off the battlefield.
Now you’re ready for a new playing field …intentional mutual benefit. Even if you disagree on certain beliefs, you can minimize that dissonance by amplifying your resonance. From there you can get to the heart of the matter – which is the matter of the heart.
If the primary issue for humankind right now is the illusion of separation, what an opportunity March provides to release the habit of separation, and intentionally heal a relationship where you have been “separated” from another.
12 Habits Webinar - Episode 3
March’s Habit - Resolve Conflicts
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Steve Bhaerman in Conversation with Elaine Parke.Humorist and Author Steve Bhaerman and Elaine Parke, MBA, CS, CM, NSA, Communications Consultant & Author, creator of the 12 Habits of Unity, discuss the 12 Habits as a coherent, evolutionary practice that produces real results in the real world – and how you can “join the Up-Wising” and our exciting intentional experiment.
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This revolution of good habits will grow because you act on the habits and because you have good ideas for spreading the 12 habits too. As an example, one dentist displayed monthly habits posters.. on the ceiling over his patients - and changed them each month. How COOL is that?? Share YOUR stories and ideas with us and we’ll feature them on the website so others can benefit from your sharing.